Danny Pino says “NO MÁS”

Actor Danny Pino starred as Detective Nick Amaro on Law & Order: Special Victims Unit for four seasons. We spoke with him about SVU diehards, talking to his children about sexual assault and domestic violence, and Decimos NO MÁS, a new national awareness campaign engaging Latin@s around these issues. The campaign, launch in partnership with Casa de Esperanza: National Latin@ Network and Verizon, is based on the findings of the NO MÁS Study, commissioned by the Avon Foundation for Women.

NO MORE: How did your role as Detective Nick Amaro on Law & Order: SVU shape the way that you think about domestic violence and sexual assault?

Danny Pino: Playing Nick Amaro was an education for me on set and off. Becoming aware of the silence, shame and lingering deep scars that often accompany these violent crimes and the frequency of these crimes within all communities was sobering.  The statistics are staggering for both men and women, leaving secrets and broken lives in their wake.  I’ve learned these acts rely on the silence and fear of victims and witnesses, alike. Fear is understandable, but silence is collusion. Breaking the cycle takes courage and there are support centers and resources for victims. I’ve had the good fortune of meeting people within this stalwart community of advocates for survivors and I can say without a doubt, they are ready to hear your story, they are ready to help you rebuild, and most importantly, there is hope.

NM: SVU has a huge and devoted fan following. Have fans shared their own stories of survival and abuse with you?

DP: Yes. SVU diehards are a big reason I valued being on L & O.  The show inspires loyalty for several reasons, one being its social resonance.  It has been personally rewarding to connect fans of the show who’ve unfortunately suffered as victims of sexual assault or domestic abuse to empowering organizations such as the Joyful Heart Foundation.

NM: One of the things we learned from the NO MÁS Study is that nearly two-thirds of all Latin@s (60%) are willing to get involved in efforts to address domestic violence and sexual assault. Why do you think the Latin@ community is so ready to take action?

DP: Any community that values and protects human rights should find the statistics concerning domestic violence and sexual assault appalling and should be ready to take action. Latinos are no different.  “No more” and “no mas” are universal.

NM: You have two elementary school-aged children. Have you had conversations with them yet about these issues?

DP: Lack of communication and silence is fertile soil for abuse. My wife and I started to discuss these issues with our boys since before preschool. We reinforce the importance of their control and ultimate say over their own bodies. We encourage them to keep no secrets from us. We also teach them the significance of respecting themselves by respecting women.  It’s as vital to guard against our sons being victims, as it is for them not to become abusers.

NM: A central theme of the DECIMOS NO MÁS campaign is that parents are the true heroes in their children’s lives. How do you ensure that your voice is the loudest one when it comes to discussing these issues with your kids?

DP: By being present, being aware and discussing these issues periodically. There is no way to be with our boys 24/7, but knowing they can always safely come to us with a question, a concern, an observation will hopefully drive out the silence these crimes rely on.

 

To learn more about the Decimos NO MÁS campaign and the NO MÁS Study, and get tools & resources to help deepen the conversation ,visit www.wesaynomas.org.

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Are you ready for the DECIMOS NO MÁS Campaign?

Casa de Esperanza and NO MORE are excited to announce the launch of DECIMOS NO MÁS, a new national campaign engaging Latin@s to play a critical role in ending domestic violence and sexual assault.

Statistics show that an alarming number of Latin@ women and children are impacted by domestic violence in the United States:

  • 1 in 3 Latina women have experienced physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetimedecimos NO MAS NO MORE
  • 15 million children live in homes where they witness domestic violence

New research shows that Latin@s are taking steps to address domestic violence and sexual assault in their community:

  • More than half of the Latin@s (56%) in the U.S. know a victim of domestic violence, and one in four (28%) know a victim of sexual assault.
  • Latin@s believe fear is a major barrier to seeking help and fear of deportation is the top reason Latin@ victims may not come forward.

Despite the fear and how difficult it is to talk about these issues, Latin@s are taking action:

  • Nearly two-thirds of Latin@s (61%) who knew a victim of domestic violence, say they intervened and did something for the victim.
  • Latin@ parents are much more likely than parents in the U.S. population at large to talk to their children about domestic violence and sexual assault.
  • More than half (54%) of Latin@ parents have talked to their children about these issues and 83% of Latin@s are willing to talk with the children in their lives about domestic violence and sexual assault.
  • An overwhelming majority of Latin@s believe that starting young and educating children about healthy relationships is the key to prevention.

IMG_4159A Campaign with A Call to Action for Parents

Developed in partnership with NO MORE and Casa de Esperanza: National Latin@ Network, the DECIMOS NO MÁS Campaign targets parents specifically, and encourages them to have meaningful conversations with their children about these issues. The new campaign utilizes the theme “Their Hero is You” in creative concepts to mobilize parents to speak up. New resources are available.

The bilingual campaign website www.decimosnomas.org / www.wesaynomas.org features:

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Jake Comito, a junior from Rutgers University, is fighting two battles: on one front, he is changing the way people perceive and react to sexual assault on campus. On the other front, he is combatting the negative publicity shadowing Universities as incidences of violence on campus gain greater attention. Jake has been using his influence as a Resident Assistant, Teaching Assistant and Supervisor for Recreational Sports to disrupt violence on campus. He speaks about how he used the NO MORE campaign to spread awareness at Rutgers and how YOU can spark the conversation at your school too. Check out his work on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram by searching the hashtag #RUSaysNoMore! 

1) Using the NO MORE Toolkit:

17921_front_saynomore_courtesyofjakecomitofThe celebrity posters from the NO MORE Toolkit started my campaign at Rutgers.  I was inspired by Amy Poehler’s, “Well, she was drunk,” poster. I thought to myself, as the world’s greatest Parks and Recreation fan, that I could say NO MORE just as Amy Poehler had. I felt connected to the cause because of Amy, and then I researched NO MORE and their work to raise awareness about these crimes.  These posters, along with workplace fliers, postcards and the NO MORE symbol, create a necessary conversation about the cause.

What can you do? 
  1. Research NO MORE and articulate the campaign’s mission and vision 
  2. Print the posters and fliers
  3. Post the posters and fliers in dining halls, Resident Living Spaces, Libraries and Student Centers 

2) Creating an Event and Working with Local Businesses:

Posters are passive and while their influence is strong, it’s also limited. I created an event to actively promote the cause and to encourage student involvement. I wanted to “put students onto the poster” by replacing the celebrities with us—normal Rutgers students.

I teamed up with GlobalSoft Digital Solutions, a Digital Marketing and Printing Production company located in New Jersey. I re-created the NO MORE posters, without the celebrities, and then sent the PDF file to GlobalSoft to produce (picture the celebrity posters with a blank center). They printed the digital file onto foam core poster boards and then donated the boards to me. They were willing to stand behind the cause and to contribute to the campaign and the University. It was an easy sell – businesses are frequently looking to get involved with local campuses. Now that I have the foam core boards, I am able to take pictures of students standing in front of the boards, crop the pictures and splash colors onto the pictures to make it seem like the students are on the poster (see the attached picture).

What can you do?
  1. Pick a date, time and place for your event 
  2. Contact local business and explain to them your campaign and your vision for spreading awareness on campus
  3. Figure out their production capabilities and/or ask for donations – make a strong case! 

 3) Involving On-Campus Organizations:

Residence Life was, and still is, instrumental to my campaign. My hall staff has contributed to the campaign by spreading awareness, taking pictures and distributing the NO MORE lapel pins. I have also received support from fraternities and sororities, ethnic groups and special interest groups. These groups have taken the NO MORE pledge and they have demonstrated their support for the cause.

What can you do?
  1. Speak about the NO MORE campaign at your student group’s executive board meetings 
  2. Generate interest within the members of the group and begin conversations about the cause
  3. Meet with other on-campus organizations and work in tandem with them to spread awareness on campus 

 

 4) Utilizing Social Media:

I took over 120 pictures of students who had “put themselves onto the poster” within the first week of the campaign. We prompted everyone to post their pictures online with the hashtag #RUSaysNoMore to curate the posters on social media. It was a hit – within days, students and faculty members were using the hashtag to talk about sexual assault and to say NO MORE alongside each other.

What can you do?
  1. Post pictures of yourself on social media saying NO MORE
  2. Create a school-wide hashtag (for example #(YourSchool)SaysNoMore) 
  3. Join the conversation online and see what other people are saying and doing with NO MORE 

 

 5) Recognition from Administration:

Rutgers University pledged to end sexual assault this year. I wanted to prove that students and administration share visions for our school, not only academically, but also socially. I have been using lessons and themes imposed on us to display our united front. I have also sent emails to Campus Directors, scheduled meetings with Vice Chancellors and Senior Leadership Figures and extended my reach to the school paper. Their support and their recognition has helped me spread the cause.

What can you do?
  1. Schedule meetings with hall directors to seek advice for advertising, promoting and positioning
  2. Speak with members of your campus’ administration and ask for their involvement 
  3. Reach out to the school paper, radio shows, magazines and social media accounts

 

 Final Words of Advice:

Universities have been under scrutiny for their investigation tactics and inadequate responses to sexual violence on campus. As students, it is important to draw attention to the problems that we care about, but it is even more important to offer solutions to these problems and to become part of the change.. We need to unify our student bodies and urge everyone to stand up and say “NO MORE”. We can lead by example, prompting Universities to follow our progress.

Do you want to put yourself and your school onto the poster? Contact Jake Comito at jake.comito@rutgers.edu to learn more and download the free NO MORE Toolkit.

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Domestic Violence Awareness Month has inspired truly amazing activism in communities and on campuses all across the country.  As DVAM draws to a close, we’re taking a look back at some of the highlights.

 

Southwest Pennsylvania Says NO MORE released a new local PSA campaign with PA leaders.

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On October 27, 75 women incarcerated at the Chittenden Regional Correctional Facility in Burlington, Vermont, gathered to say “No More” to domestic violence as part of a survivor speak-out for DVAM.

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Travis County, Texas, Sheriff’s office launched the “Athlete: The Positive Champion” campaign in honor of DVAM. Officers’ families took a stand and said #NOMORE to domestic violence. Their “Football is a Contact Sport. Love Shouldn’t Be.” campaign empowers high school athletes to educate others on domestic violence. 

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High school student athletes in Minnesota had a Lip Sync Battle to raise awareness about healthy relationships.

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USA Network hosted a special Law & Order: SVU #NOMOREexcuses marathon in honor of DVAM. Special highlight: all new PSAs featuring NFL stars, like this one with Pittsburgh Steeler William Gay, who lost his mother to domestic violence.

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Postcard.com created a Postcard Says NO MORE  live activation in parks across NYC. People submitted their own images and stories, which were turned into postcards combined to form the NO MORE logo.

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Jeb Bush participates in roundtable discussion on domestic violence in New Hampshire, a battleground primary state. The New Hampshire Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence (NHCADSV) hopes to engage all of the presidential candidates on these issues. 

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University of Georgia athletes launched their own NO MORE campaign. 

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Filmmaker Hannelore Williams released the three-part documentary web-series LoveStruck. LoveStruck explores domestic violence through extended interviews with survivors and perpetrators.

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A hair entrepreneur incorporated the NO MORE symbol in her ingenius new design to raise funds for domestic violence organizations, called ScrewUp

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The New York Giants joined long-time partnerMy Sisters’ Place (MSP) and the Joyful Heart Foundation to say “NO MORE” in honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM), at their October 25th home game against the Dallas Cowboys. More than 80,000 fans attending the game joined Joyful Heart Foundation Founder and Presidentm, Mariska Hargitay, and Giants players in the NO MORE Giants Stadium activation.

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Have other highlights from DVAM? Email us at info@nomore.org (be sure to include photos/links) and we’ll add to our list.

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Sunday, October 25th on USA Network at 9 AM/8 AMc

We’re teaming up with the Joyful Heart Foundation and USA Network for a very special  “Law & Order: SVU” NO MORE Excuses Marathon in commemoration of Domestic Violence Awareness Month on Sunday, October 25, 2015.

The 14-hour marathon will feature an all-new video spots with SVU star and Joyful Heart Foundation Founder & President, Mariska Hargitay, and NFL players – including the Pittsburgh Steelers’ William Gay, Mark Herzlich of the New York Giants, Andrew Hawkins of the Cleveland Browns, Benjamin Watson of the New Orleans Saints and Jason Witten of the Dallas Cowboys – encouraging everyone to get off the sidelines to help stop domestic violence and sexual assault.

Join us on social media throughout the marathon using the hashtag #NOMOREexcuses, and encourage everyone in your network to visit nomore.org and take the pledge to say “NO MORE” to domestic violence and sexual assault this DVAM.

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Promoting Awareness | Victim Empowerment (PAVE)’s #ConsentIs Campaign

Our friends at Promoting Awareness | Victim Empowerment (PAVE), a DC-based nonprofit organization that works to prevent sexual assault and heal survivors nationwide, launched a national social media campaign #ConsentIs to raise awareness, shatter the silence of sexual violence and promote the five essentials of consent: verbal, sober, enthusiastic, freely given and consistent.

Consent Is Campaign“We live in a cultural climate where cases of sexual assault are recurrent. Far too often these cases go unreported. With easy access to social media, we have an opportunity to educate young people who face these challenges. The #ConsentIs campaign is an interactive approach to spreading awareness of such a serious issue. We want to reduce cases of sexual assault and create a culture of respect,” says Angela Rose, PAVE’s Executive Director.

A survey released this week by the Association of American Universities Campus shows that 1 in 4 college women say they have been physically forced or threatened with force into nonconsensual sexual contact, highlighting the need to educate on the importance of consent in every relationship.

To join the campaign, you can order your own soft elastic, gender neutral, custom “Consent Is____” wristband here or simply share what consent means to you on Instagram, Facebook or Twitter using the hashtag #ConsentIs.

 

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This week, we sat down with filmmaker Hannelore Williams, director of the forthcoming three part documentary webseries, LoveStruck. In LoveStruck, Williams interviews both survivors and perpetrators of domestic violence, honestly exploring the personal toll of the nationwide epidemic.

How did you get involved with the issue of domestic violence?

As a documentary filmmaker I’ve come to my topics from a place of personal experience or connection.  I was about halfway into filming my previous documentary, Dirty 30 [about HIV/AIDS], when the realization hit that if I really wanted to make a documentary that hits home for me, I would make one on domestic violence.  It’s something that has had a grip on my life in many ways and at different times, but when it came to portrayals in the media I rarely saw anything that spoke to me straight on.  So I decided that’s what I wanted to do, I wanted to make something that wouldn’t make me feel like a victim or bad or weak if I had tuned in on one of my darker days.

Can you tell us a little bit about how you came to make LoveStruck?

Getting to make LoveStruck was a hurdle.  Maybe brought on by myself.  I can be very impatient as a filmmaker.  I didn’t want to apply to a bunch of grants a bunch of times and wait a year or ten to finally get funding to make it.  I guess part of picking a truly personal topic comes with the urgency to see it made.  Fortunately, my now husband agreed that this was a vital topic and LoveStruck needed to be realized.  We formed a Foundation whose mission is to educate and empower communities, this is the first project we’ve produced as a Foundation.

Do you think domestic violence is a difficult subject to tackle on film?

It’s very difficult.  There are so many things to consider.  First and foremost, the safety and mental health of the people you interview. Next, is how to handle interviews.  Do you reenact or not.  I personally chose not to because it went against my original intention of making something that would have spoken to me.  Dramatizations didn’t help me relate.  So I simplified and let the survivors and perpetrators just speak their truths.

How did you find the DV survivors you interviewed for the series?

NO MORE was a great resource, I’m not sure I could have made LoveStruck without them.  They connected me with various domestic violence organizations throughout the United States. Through these organizations I was connected to survivors who were ready and willing to share their experience publicly.  A small percentage of the interviewees I have a connection to personally.

Were you surprised by anything you heard or learned while you were making LoveStruck?

Yes.  No matter how much you prepare yourself to hear about violence enacted, it’s always a shock to hear the story unfold.  Statistically, I was shocked to learn that young adults and teens experience dating violence at a higher rate than older adults. I was also shocked to find a strong connection between children who have grown up around household dysfunction, and the kinds of obstacles that sets for them immediately and also later in life.  Mostly, I knew when I first approached the topic that it affects many people, but it grabs me at my core the sheer number of people living in or with the effects of domestic violence and who are completely unaware that they are.

How did you find the perpetrators you interviewed?

Defining who a perpetrator is can sometimes be clear cut, and at other times not.  For instance, I have one interviewee who defines himself as a perpetrator but, I have another interviewee who defines himself as a perpetrator at some points in his life and as a survivor at others.  I had gotten more than halfway through filming the documentary and was unable to secure a perpetrator to interview, so I had resigned myself to not being able to show that side of the story.  As you can imagine it’s difficult for a perpetrator to agree to an on camera interview.  But at the last minute those interviewees I just mentioned stepped forward and offered me an interview when they heard what I was filming through friends and family.

How did you feel about interviewing the perpetrators?

I felt about the same as I feel about interviewing anyone. It’s an opportunity for me to learn from and about someone’s challenges in life. I think it’s important to perpetrators and possible future perpetrators (male or female) to hear from someone who has a shared experience. That way they can learn from these stories and make the necessary changes in their life to have healthy relationships.

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Mass shootings, like the tragedy that occurred at Emanuel AME Church on June 17, 2015 and more recently, the Oregon shooting at Umpqua Community College on October 1, 2015, have become all too familiar in the United States. They bring waves of shock, sadness, and confusion, and often produce more questions than answers. How can someone be so angry? Could anyone have seen this coming? Why did he do it?

After every one of these terrible events, there are cries for reducing gun violence on both the state and federal levels, but all too often, the connection between gun violence and domestic violence fails to make national headlines. For example, few people are aware that the majority of mass shootings from 2009 to 2014 involved incidents of domestic violence in which the shooter killed a former or current intimate partner or family member.

The evidence for the lethal combination of guns and domestic violence is undeniable.  According to Everytown For Gun Safety, an organization working to reduce gun violence, 55% of women killed with guns are killed by an intimate partner or family member.  From 2001 through 2012, 6,410 women were murdered in the United States by an intimate partner using a gun.

Unfortunately, many dangerous domestic abusers have easy access to guns. Kirsten Moore, Director of Partnerships at Everytown, says that abusers who kill their former or current intimate partner or family member are able to obtain guns legally, due to outdated laws.

While federal law prohibits domestic abusers from purchasing or owning firearms, the law defines a “domestic partner” to a current or former spouse, live-in partner, or co-parent of a child. This does nothing to prevent perpetrators of dating violence and stalking from purchasing guns, and is especially problematic given that more U.S. women are killed by dating partners than by spouses.

The federal background check requirement that prevents domestic abusers from obtaining guns is not airtight either. In most states, only licensed firearms dealers are required to perform background checks, meaning that abusers can purchase guns from private sellers online or at gun shows without their names ever being run through the system.

According to Moore, closing these loopholes and enforcing existing laws, like those that require abusers to surrender guns they already own, would be the single most effective measure in the fight to reduce domestic violence homicides. “Research shows that in states the require background checks for all [hand]gun sales, over 40% fewer women are killed.”

Preventing dangerous domestic abusers from having easy access to guns would go a long way in reducing domestic violence homicides and saving thousands of lives each year.

During this important national conversation about gun violence, it’s time to learn more and speak out about the strong connection between gun violence and domestic violence.

To learn more about gun laws and domestic violence, visit The Law Center to Prevent Gun Violence, Everytown for Gun Safety, and the National Network to End Domestic Violence.

This post was originally published on July 2, 2015. It was updated on October 5, 2015. 

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Ariel Zwang is the CEO of Safe Horizon, the largest victims services non-profit organization in the country, based in New York City. This piece originally appeared in the Huffington Post

The last 12 months were a watershed for domestic violence. Famous athletes faced real scrutiny for the acts of violence they committed, survivors took control of the conversation with a viral hashtag, purple nails expanded the dialogue nationwide, and there were also incredible advocacy wins.

This October, for National Domestic Violence Awareness Month let’s look back at the many newsworthy and heart-wrenching domestic violence moments from this past year that informed, enraged, and inspired us all to bring greater awareness to this issue.

TOP 10

1. The horrific video of domestic violence seen around the world. 

TMZ released shocking footage of NFL star Ray Rice punching his then-fiancé Janay Palmer and knocking her out. As a result, the NFL faced harsh criticism for how they responded and the issue of domestic violence was thrust into a national spotlight.

2. Then came the hashtag that went viral: #WhyIStayed

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Domestic violence survivor Beverly Gooden took to Twitter to address what she considered were “very victim-blaming” comments towards Janay Rice. And she struck a chord with many survivors who shared their own very real reasons for staying in an abusive relationship. There were nearly 600,000 people explaining just why a victim might stay.

3. NYC approves much-needed housing subsidies for victims

After strong advocacy efforts from service providers, New York City launches a new program, LINC III, in the Fall of 2014 to move families from emergency shelter into their own apartments. With housing options limited for survivors, this was a much needed win.

4. The first Super Bowl ad to ever address domestic violence airs

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“I’d like to order a pizza for delivery.” A dispatcher quickly realizes that the caller is not ordering pizza but actually needs protection in her own home from an abuser who is still there. NO MORE created this unforgettable ad and the NFL donated the air time.

5. Miss America 2015 vows to “#PutTheNailinIt” to end domestic violence 

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Safe Horizon’s #PutTheNailinIt campaign reinforces a simple message – it’s time to end domestic violence. To launch the campaign, Miss America 2015 Kira Kazantsev, a survivor herself, took to the streets of NYC to encourage New Yorkers to take a stand against domestic violence. Since its launch, that campaign has reached more than 15 million unique viewers.

6. City Hall allocates $15 million in emergency funds to increase shelter capacity in NYC

Domestic violence is a key driver of homelessness in New York City, especially among women and children. This new initiative will increase shelter capacity by hundreds of beds.  Women, children as well as singles (without children) will now have a greater chance of accessing the safe, supportive, and confidential shelter they need.

7. Meredith Vieira comes out: reveals abusive relationship

Viewers of The Meredith Vieira Show were in for a surprise when in response to the Ray Rice headlines, she revealed that she too is a survivor. Her message? “Domestic violence … is really, really a complicated issue. It’s not so easy to just get away. You think it would be, but it’s not.”

8. New Yorkers are challenged: Be an #UpStander to domestic violence 

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NYC Mayor Bill de Blasio, NYC’s Office to Combat Domestic Violence Commissioner Pierre-Louis, and others launched the city-wide #UpStander campaign to encourage New Yorkers to take a stand against domestic violence.  The campaign’s PSA aired on Taxi TV reaching countless riders who use this service every day.

9. Domestic violence takes center stage at the Grammys 

Before Katy Perry delivered an emotional rendition of “By The Grace of God,” she was introduced by Brooke Axtell, an artist who recounted her emotional story of domestic violence. Millions who watched the Grammys, including survivors, heard the message that help is available and that no one deserves abuse.

10. New campaign engages men in the effort to prevent violence against women

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“You taught him how to hit a baseball. But how much time have you spent teaching him…what not to hit?”  Futures Without Violence launched a provocative PSA called #TeachEarly highlighting the pivotal role that men play in preventing domestic and sexual violence.

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11. MLB adopts comprehensive domestic violence policy in baseball

Major League Baseball and the players union reached an agreement on a new joint domestic violence, sexual assault, and child abuse policy. This new policy will hold players accountable and provide resources for the intervention and care of victims.

12. The Huffington Post reminds us that domestic violence is still an epidemic 

With 30,000 likes and nearly 8,000 shares on Facebook, this article provided 30 staggering stats that help us all to understand the severity of domestic violence and why it continues to be an urgent issue today.

13. World Wrestling Entertainment (WWE) institutes zero tolerance policy 

The WWE has been plagued by domestic violence allegations towards its talent in the past and after the backlash the NFL faced, WWE took a strong stance. “Upon arrest for [DV], our Superstars are immediately suspended, and should there be a conviction, that Superstar or Diva would be terminated,” stated Stephanie McMahon, WWE’s chief brand officer.

14. Italian PSA asks young boys to slap a girl. What!?

An Italian news company called Fanpage.it took to the streets of Italy to ask young boys, ages six to 11, a few questions. Then comes the controversial statement: slap the young girl in front of you. But not one obliges.  This PSA was featured on numerous news outlets around the world with many viewers inspired by the young boys’ reactions.

15. First ever Domestic Violence Response Team in public housing is established in NYC

The Mayor’s Office to Combat Domestic Violence established a specialized team to conduct outreach at public housing developments and let the community know of the supports and resources available for victims and their families.  Since the launch, 400 New York City Housing residents were connected to services.

16. Cynthia Nixon explores abusive relationships in Shakespeare’s Othello 

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Part of the Public Theater’s Public Forum program, “An Evening with Desdemona & Emilia,” brought together actresses Cynthia Nixon, Uzo Aduba and others to explore themes of domestic violence that are still relevant today.

17. Safe Horizon explains the seven things that are proven to end domestic violence 

Often missing from the passionate discussion around domestic violence this year was an understanding of what is actually working to end this epidemic and how people can support real change. Based on research, these top seven interventions do work.

18. MSNBC’s Tamron Hall and Investigation Discovery INSPIRE A DIFFERENCE

Tamron Hall, who lost her sister to a tragic incident of domestic violence, participated in a live Twitter chat about the issue for Investigation Discovery’s (ID) campaign, INSPIRE A DIFFERENCE and Safe Horizon’s #PutTheNailinIt campaign. The Twitter chat used the hashtag #INSPIREADIFFERENCE and reached over three million people.

19. Advocates win fight to get priority status for victims in public housing

In early summer, The New York City Housing Authority offered 200 units designated the highest priority to domestic violence victims living in shelter. This was after advocacy efforts from service providers like Safe Horizon who called for more affordable and permanent housing for victims.

20. Kyra Sedgwick, Alan Cumming and NFL linebacker take a stand against domestic violence 

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A powerful 30-second PSA that features celebrities encouraging Americans to take a vow to end domestic violence is launched. Produced by Arnold Worldwide and Safe Horizon, the PSA has aired on Verizon FiOS, Investigation Discovery, PIX11 and to date was viewed more than 10,000 times on YouTube.

21. A NJ case raises concern: is there a high rate of violence within law enforcement families?

There was one case featured in the media that angered many:  ex-cop Philip Seidle murdered his ex-wife in broad daylight. There are special concerns when an abuser is also an officer. They have legal access to firearms and can often locate confidential shelters.

22. Police officers in California paint their nails purple to support victims

The Azusa Police Department in Los Angeles released a video of officers in uniform with their left ring fingernails painted purple as a sign of support for victims of domestic violence, joining Safe Horizon’s #PutTheNailinIt campaign. This light-hearted video sends a strong message: domestic violence won’t be tolerated by these officers.

23. New initiative addresses the children impacted by domestic violence

The NYPD and the Manhattan’s District Attorney’s Office partnered with Safe Horizon to launch a Child Trauma Response Team demonstration project. The 30-month project, informed by a national model of law enforcement and mental health collaboration, is designed to reduce the negative impact of children’s exposure to severe domestic violence.

24. One popular fitness blogger’s heartbreaking story goes viral

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In a video that was viewed more than nine million times on Facebook, Emma Murphy of Ireland publicize her heartbreaking story because she wanted to raise awareness for other victims.

25. Tragic case of domestic murder in same-sex relationship raises increased awareness 

Many media outlets, including many LGBT outlets, picked up the story of 20-year-old Bryan Canchola who allegedly murdered his boyfriend after a domestic dispute. This case brought national attention that domestic violence is also prevalent in same-sex relationships.

26. New bill would give domestic violence victims in California control of cellphone 

Advances in wireless technology now allow abusers to monitor their victims’ call records and sometimes their physical location if they are the holder of the account. This new bill would authorize courts to require wireless telephone service providers to transfer the telephone number and account responsibilities to the victim, so that abusers no longer have access to this sensitive information. Advocates are eagerly waiting the passage of the bill.

27. A Maryland cop provides a safe haven to a domestic violence survivor and her baby

The survivor and her one year old baby girl had nowhere else to go for the night, so Officer Ché Atkinson paid for their hotel room.  Atkinson’s actions touched many.

28. Dr. Dre apologizes to the ‘Women I’ve Hurt’

“Straight Outta Compton,” a biopic about Dr. Dre’s hip-hop group, N.W.A., opened to an impressive $56 million in ticket sales. Yet the film ignored his history of violence towards women. After public pressure, Dr. Dre issued an apology, “I apologize to the women I’ve hurt. I deeply regret what I did and know that it has forever impacted all of our lives.” But was it enough?

29. Sesame Street’s “Maria” comes forward with her heart wrenching story of domestic abuse

After 44 years on Sesame Street as “Maria,” Sonia Manzano officially retired from the show. But it’s her experience with domestic abuse that makes headlines. Her new memoir details watching her father beat her mother with a broken table leg. As Maria she wanted to “provide a little bit of solace through [Sesame Street] for children in [similar] situations.”

30. 5th Graders take their vow against domestic violence

One special elementary school in Kentucky has added the #PutTheNailinIt campaign to their curriculum. Local media LEX 18 covered this heart-warming story, showing it’s never too early to take a stand against domestic violence!

31. Safe Horizon raises $31,000 for victims of domestic violence

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Help us make this a reality and one of the 31 most powerful moments this year. Our goal is simple: let’s move victims of domestic violence from crisis to confidence by raising $31,000 by October 31st to provide them with the support they need: shelter, counseling, hotline services and other proven solutions to end domestic violence. Learn more and donate now at www.putthenailinit.org

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What people mean when they talk about Bystanders. It’s different than you think.

by·stand·er

/ˈbīˌstandər/

noun

A person who is present at an event or incident but does not take part.

If you have been paying attention to stories of sexual assault and domestic violence in the news recently (and it’s hard not to), you have likely heard the word “bystander” used with some frequency. From the campus-based It’s On Us campaign to demands for culture change in professional sports, calls for increased bystander engagement are everywhere. But what, or who, exactly is a bystander?

A bystander can mean different things in different situations.

A bystander is someone at a bar who sees a drunk person being taken advantage of. A bystander is someone who notices a family member’s bruises. A bystander is someone who hears screaming coming from a neighbor’s home.

According to the dictionary, a bystander is “someone who is present at an event or incident but does not take part.” People who work to prevent domestic violence and sexual assault are trying to change this definition.

From passive to active.

The Bystander Effect, popularized by social psychologists in the 1960s, refers to the decreased likelihood that a person will intervene or help in an emergency situation if there are other people present. The more witnesses are present, the less likely someone is to intervene. Seems strange, right?

Researchers attribute this phenomenon to a diffusion of responsibility, essentially people telling themselves that they don’t have to act because someone else will, and to behavioral influences, or people seeing other bystanders not intervening and emulating that behavior.  

These reasons often hold true when people fail to intervene in situations of domestic violence or sexual assault. In fact, they are at the core of the often invoked excuses, “It’s not my problem” and “It’s none of my business.” The Bystander Effect can explain why, when a 19 year-old woman was raped by multiple men on a crowded Florida beach during Spring Break last March, not one of the hundreds of onlookers intervened.

Sexual assault and domestic violence can also carry a stigma of shame; people wrongfully blame victims, which can further discourage bystander intervention.

The good news? It doesn’t have to be this way.

In the last thirty years, there have been two major bystander engagement initiatives that have succeeded in mobilizing everyday people to become part of the solution. The campaign to end drunk driving and the “See something, say something” campaign have been incredibly effective in reducing drunk driving deaths and motivating citizens to report suspicious activity to prevent terror attacks.

If public awareness campaigns–PSAs, subway ads, calls to action by public figures–can effectively convince bystanders  to take a away a drunk acquaintance’s keys or report a suspicious backpack on a train, then we can also convince bystanders to take an active role in safely preventing and interrupting sexual assault and domestic violence.  Ultimately, we also need to address the culture that permits it to happen.

Where do I begin?

There are many resources available online to help educate bystanders on how to intervene when they see domestic violence or sexual assault in progress. Read these, share them with your friends, and talk about them with your family. It is so much easier to intervene if you don’t have to do it alone.  Together we can end domestic violence and sexual assault.

For real-life scenarios, tips on intervening, and additional bystander resources, visit:

The NO MORE Bystander Guide to Parties

NO MORE: Taking Action to Stop Violence

 

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