Show your support for NO MORE domestic violence and sexual assault
I say no more because I was the victim of domestic abuse in a same sex relationship. Unfortunately, many do not talk about the high rate of domestic abuse in the LGBTQ+ community. Some do not acknowledge this abuse because both people are of the same sex but it is undoubtedly abuse that results in harm and sometimes death.
The abuse started very early in the relationship and continued for about eight years. My abuser told me I was the first person she abused and the abuse was my fault. The initial abuse was mental and emotional. It then evolved into physical and financial. She apologized after every incident and promised to get counseling. So I had hope that she'd change. I waited and didn't tell anyone, suffering in silence.
After my father died of cancer at the age of 60, I realized life was short and I needed to put myself first. So I decided to leave the relationship and file for divorce. I finally decided to tell a best friend about the abuse and to my surprise, she didn't believe me. After a few months I decided to tell another friend. Fortunately she believed me and admitted that she suspected the abuse.
It's been many years since that relationship. Throughout the years I've shared my story with many and learned of other LGBTQ+ people that have suffered or are suffering abusive relationships. I will continue to share my story of resilience and strength to build awareness and to give others hope. Nikki