This Mom Was Shot By Her Husband – And Survived


Kate Ranta’s husband tried to murder her in front of their son. Now he’s in jail, and she’s speaking out.

Kate Ranta met Thomas Maffei online. She was a busy single mom with a three-year-old son, and many of her friends encouraged her to try At the very least, she thought she’d get a couple of fun dates out of it.

Maffei, a handsome older Air Force officer, fell for her immediately. They were engaged in three months, married in six.

“He was extremely handsome and charismatic,” she says. “We seemed to click instantly. He was divorced, like me. We’d been through similar things. I thought we were coming from the same place. He seemed very together.”

She got pregnant right away.

Ranta1“Looking back, I realize that he wanted to move really fast, but I lost myself in the relationship,” Ranta says. She was in love.

Early on, Maffei exhibited controlling behavior—he refused to let her cook, and he insisted that she avoid all social media. He eventually relented and let her join Facebook, if she cleared her friends with him first. “He told me that it opened the doors to infidelity,” she says.

He did insist that she work and make her own money, because he wouldn’t let her see his bank accounts.

“When I was growing up, nobody talked about domestic violence,” Ranta says. “And, if you did hear about anything, it was physical. My parents will be together 46 years next month—I didn’t witness any abuse, and I didn’t know what to look for,” she says. “Looking back, I realize I wasn’t even fully participating in my own life. I was in a bubble.”

She rationalized his actions. How bad could things be? The couple had a generally comfortable life in Fort Belvoir, Virginia; her friends and family liked him; and he was an attentive new dad.

In 2010, Ranta suggested moving to Coral Springs, Florida, where she could be closer to her parents. To her surprise, Maffei agreed.

“Then his behavior became completely erratic,” she recalls. “He told me that if any men outside of family members tried to befriend me on Facebook, I had to tell him.” When a male high school friend reached out, Maffei turned violent.

He left their home with their son in the middle of the night. Ranta called 911. He returned home, raised his fist, and threatened to hit her. When the police arrived, Ranta fled the house and stayed with her parents.

“I was done. Terrified. That one incident alone completely scared me, because I didn’t know what he was capable of,” she says.

She was able to secure a temporary restraining order, though she was refused a permanent one. “The law is set up to protect attackers, not victims,” she says.

Eventually, she and her two children stealthily moved from her parents’ house to their own apartment, not telling Maffei where they’d gone.

Then she saw her slashed tires in the parking lot. He’d found her.

On November 2, 2012, she was at home with her father and younger son when she spotted Maffei through the window, coming toward the front door. She dialed 911.

And then the shots rang out. She was hit twice, once in the left breast. The bullet missed her heart by millimeters. Her father was also hit twice in the arm and side as he tried to keep his son-in-law from barreling through the door. Their little boy sat by and sobbed. (Ranta’s older son was visiting his father.)

The dispatcher stayed on the phone as Maffei fired; the frantic call was later made public. Ranta was airlifted to the hospital, where she received blood transfusions. Miraculously, she and her dad survived.

Maffei was arrested at the scene, and he’s now awaiting trial in a Florida prison.

But Ranta’s journey has just begun. “For the first year after it happened, I didn’t feel safe. I was looking over my shoulder. It’s no way to live—sheer survival, just getting through day to day,” she says. She wore a panic button around her neck and installed a security system in her home, which was flagged by police.

But it didn’t help much. “I was always looking in the mirror, wondering who was behind me,” she says. Her son, who grew clingy after the shooting, received counseling through a state-funded trauma group.

Now, Ranta says, “He tells people that he has no father.”

Ranta is determined to speak out, sharing her story through advocacy groups like Everytown for Gun Safety and Moms Demand Action.

“Trust your instincts,” she urges. “I recognized his weird statements and behavior, but I blew it off. I just wanted the relationship to work. But any controlling behavior is a red flag. As soon as you see it, just let go of the relationship. Get out. Don’t look back!”

Visit Kate’s Facebook page and see her family photos at Love and Support for Kate Ranta and Family.



  • Over the past 25 years, more intimate partner homicides in the U.S. have been committed with guns than with all other weapons combined.
  • More than half of women murdered with guns in the U.S. in 2011 — at least 53 percent — were killed by intimate partners or family members.
  • In 57 percent of mass shootings between January 2009 and June 2014, the perpetrator killed an intimate partner or family member.

    Everytown for Gun Safety


Need help? Contact The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) to learn how to help someone in an abusive relationship or to get help for yourself.

Learn about the warning signs for potentially abusive relationships here.

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