Show your support for NO MORE domestic violence and sexual assault
I say no more because I was tired for trying to make everything work out for a man who did not want to try to work it out for his family or help me out. No more because my little sister or others could've been hurt as well. No more because others have not spoken for the same fears I had. I was sexually molested by my dad when I was 9 and 13. When it happened when I was 13, I did not know how my family would react or if they would believe me or if they would treat this as a little thing that I needed to get over. So I kept smiling and kept going as if nothing did happen. Until I couldn't take being hugged, kissed, lectured, etc by a man I was supposed to trust to protect me from monsters like him. And he still had the stupidity to ask me why I wanted to leave the house for? I couldn't take it and needed to leave. But knowing my little sister was there, I told her what happened to me and asked if she was in that similar situation, and said no. But once I was 17 I told my mom and everyone else but that same day we called the police to figure out how to catch my dad to saying the truth and we did and had him confessing as evidence. We took him in that same day and my mom was supportive. However, since that day everyone who knew or didn't know exactly what happened, hated my mom and I for putting my dad in there. There was the excuse that he said sorry, everyone loves him, he's done everything else fine and is a good man to everyone else. So eventually my family believed that and decided to let this go and supported him while he was in jail and prison. I was left with no support or was troubled at the fact that I was being helped the same or less than my attacker was. I felt like there was no justice because I stayed quiet and lived as if nothing happened for years, keeping away from close relationships or friendships, and he only spent a month or two alone. My family started and now feel that this was my fault for the break of our family and no longer support me. My dad was deported after a year and my mom has been texting him and calling him every other day, and visiting him every other weekend. We all live together still and now with my grandma. Everyone there, except my grandparents and my little sister, is still treating this as if nothing happened but my grandparents and sister don't know what to do with my family who are blaming me and shaming me. But I went through therapy and looked up ways to help myself and know that I'm strong and will keep speaking up and saying the truth. Too many people are in need mentally and physically after a trauma like these and there is still hope. I still believe my family can change but through time and maybe an experience like that to happen to them, they'll understand. Right now I am 20, going to college and have a job. No more excuses, no matter what rumors are spread about me, no matter what my family and ex friends say, I will always say the truth and know that I'm not the one to blame, I'm no longer a victim but a survivor. Cynthia
